silly old yeller

I was going along, minding my own business, and I read a post over at Interstellar Adventures that certainly made me stop and think.

No, I’m not like the guy in her post, but I do have a, shall we say, quick temper. This wasn’t always the case, but it is nowadays.

I get short tempered with the kids. I yell at cars that act like Idiots (or Maniacs, see Carlin, George). Sometimes I yell at the TV. I’m very quick to say “no” to a request, and also can be quick to judge a situation. And I wonder why my kids yell at each other?

One night (day?) recently, I heard my wife and kids around the kitchen table. I think they were working on homework, but they were also talking about something fun they wanted to do. I don’t remember exact details, but the gist of the conversation was that somebody had to go ask Dad about something, and they didn’t want to do it.

My. kids. Didn’t want to talk to me. They were afraid of what I might say. Or do.

Clearly, something’s gotta give. I can’t be perfect, but I can do better. I gotta have more patience, I gotta stop and think before I open my mouth. I gotta support my family more, instead of insisting on rigid compliance with how I expect things to go. Wish me luck.

5 thoughts on “silly old yeller

  1. Do you think you could help me get my kids to not want to talk to me? Cause my ears are bleeding…

    You know, we’re not perfect. I’m positive you aren’t even a bit like that guy at Target. See now that you are aware of it, you can try to be better. My biggest weakness is staring at the computer too much when I should be, oh, doing about a million other things. My youngest will wave her hand in front of my face (and computer monitor) when she wants my attention. How awful is that? And yet here I sit…

    Perfect is boring anyways.

  2. {{{ ben }}}

    yes, it’s pretty bad. (you asked for honesty, right?) But at least now you know. And knowing, you can move on and improve. Just like the running: one foot in front of the other.

  3. I think we’re all victims of this type of situation. Outside pressures of some kind change us in some way, and sometimes we don’t even notice it until it’s too late. You say that you haven’t always had a short temper. Something had to happen (stress?) that changed that. You recognize it and you can change it back.

    And while you don’t want your kids to be ‘scared’ of you, you do want them to think about what they’re going to ask you and start to make a determination of what’s a good idea versus what’s a bad idea.

    My kids are kind of psychic…”Mom, I know you’re going to say no, but…”. Sometimes I do say no, and I give a reason. Sometimes I surprise them and say yes. But it’s good to keep them on their toes a little.

    Be Zen my friend, be Zen.

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