I try sometimes

Lately I’ve been wondering a lot about why, exactly, it is so hard for me to just say what I want.

I guess there are multiple answers: Sometimes I’m not certain what I want. Sometimes I guess I’m embarrassed by my own desires. Most of the time, though, I think I’m just afraid.  I’m afraid that saying what I want will upset somebody else.  Maybe scare them, or piss them off, or make them want to distance themselves from me.

I’m not afraid of upsetting inanimate objects, so it has to be people.

One of my goals now:  Speak up, be myself.  Stop getting lost in trying to please everyone else, cuz that ain’t gonna happen, anyway.

Scott, if your life had a face, I would punch it.

One of those strange things that occurred to me recently is how much I fucking love Scott Pilgrim. This came to me while I was running the other morning.

(I need to warn you here that some of what I write may spoil the movie for you. So if you haven’t, go watch it, then come back)

Because Scott is on a journey, too. He thought he knew what he wanted, he went through the motions, he started feeling like a victim or pawn. He got pissed off about how things were going. He struggled to get a handle on things, and in spite of all that he has gone through, ends up losing Ramona to Gideon.

So a desolate landscape evocative of a “Game Over” screen signifies the lowest point of the story, where Scott is at his weakest and most vulnerable. An Extra Life signifies a resurgence of willpower, and a Sword signifies the driving emotional force. These symbols come together to form a cohesive narrative: weakness, debilitation, doubt, followed by deep introspection, followed by a sudden realization, followed by a resurgence of will, followed by a triumphant return.

Scott felt defeated, down. Lost.

And then, in his darkest hour, he got back up.

In the end, Scott learns a lot about himself and his world, and he ends up doing something about it. He not only earns the power of love, he earns the power of self-respect. The fact that ‘earning’ something in his video game-ish world is a great metaphor for truly learning it in life is part of why I love this movie.

And I thought I was just making up bullshit but then I saw this cool article and it covers the exact same thing. That’s where I grabbed the quote in the box to the right.

Around two or three months ago, around Thanksgiving and Christmas, I don’t know I could have felt much worse. It seemed like rock bottom, I saw my version of the “Game Over” screen. It was a very dark and lonely time. No, I didn’t get an extra life symbol, and didn’t acquire a flaming sword (that would have been really cool, though). I learned that good friends are hard to find. I figured out which friends I could ultimately lean on and was very surprised. It wasn’t like I expected, but I did finally (to keep with my bad analogy) ‘level up.’

That’s behind me, now. I still have challenges, I still need to defeat my NegaScott. I’m looking ahead and hoping to level up again. Maybe it’s nearing the time for my triumphant return.

So lean upon Him gently

One of my favorite songs ever.

Hell, I love the whole album, but I can’t put all the videos up here. I think I’ll listen to it tonight after work. This concert is over 40 years old, Ian still had hair 😛

He is the god of nothing
if that’s all that you can see
you are the god of everything
He’s inside you and me

so lean upon Him gently
and don’t call on Him to save
you from your social graces
and the sins you used to waive